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First things first, thank you. Because you’re there, reading my posts – I’m even more encouraged to follow through. You really make a difference.

Today I’m going to focus a bit different. We all know the deal now – water, exercise, water, eat, stretch, water, snack, stretch, water, eat, water…So today – let’s talk about feelings, breakthroughs and realizations.

Waking Up – I went to bed later than I wanted. And when the alarm rang, I hit the snooze again and again and – NO. If I didn’t get up now, I wouldn’t have time to walk – and I had to walk. So grumpy, tired mommy yells at the boy to get out of bed and get dressed. “I’m leaving and I want you dressed and ready for breakfast when I get home.” This sweet little voice called,”Why can’t I walk with you?” Indeed, why not? So, I calmed down and waited for him to get dressed. He ran the first ten minutes, we walked and talked the final ten, and then we enjoyed breakfast together. He said he was going to go to bed really early so we could walk longer tomorrow and suggested that I should do the same.

And what a wake-up call for me. First breakfast, now exercise. I was really sending the wrong message. I hope it’s not too late to change that – for both of us.

Forgiveness – Mistakes happen – don’t let them bring you down.
I didn’t walk last night. I failed. Normally, that would have been enough to stop me. But this morning, I did it anyways. I decided early on, if I made a mistake, to forgive myself and keep on keepin’ on. The results? Haven’t gorged on chocolate and haven’t given up on my walks. Good enough for me.

PAIN – If I hurt, don’t hurt myself even more. I was so into working through the pain – (I blame the Olympics and their no pain, no gain attitude). Reality check, I am extremely out of shape and overweight. My poor bones and joints can’t take the strain. So, last night, no walk. And this morning? My hip feels fine. My knees are a bit sore – but no biggy. At this place, at this time, the evening walk is too much for me. I’ll try again in a week.

Satisfaction – Face it – we all want instant satisfaction and gratification. That’s part of my weight problem. So I have to find the right foods to fill the hollow pit. I’ll have to play a bit to find the perfect combo of healthy, filling food that works for my, Until then – just deal. I’m hungry, not starving. After all, I’m going to eat something in less than 3 hours. I can wait that long. Then, when I make this work – I’ll experience satisfaction on a whole new level.

Willpower – I don’t think I have a lot of this, but I think we all have enough to get us through the little battles. Like this one. Day 2 commute home – and I am HUNGRY. It wasn’t a very satisfying day. And what’s that in my pocket, forgotten and forlorn? Half a bag of chocolate. Creamy, melt in your mouth chocolate. I didn’t eat it!!! (and the crowd goes wild!) Yes, I had enough willpower, but not enough. My willpower needs friends. Like Dena, like you.

Note:Vacation for the next 2 days. And I’ve decided. Don’t restrict too much – but don’t go overboard. Let’s see if I can find the middle.

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taken by Rich Moffitt

by shadow woman

I was up a couple times during the night. All that water has to go somewhere.  And, I don’t know If you can relate, but even if he’s a good boy during the day, I HATE going to the bathroom after my husband in the middle of the night.

I wanted to go shopping and get the things I needed – vitamins, yogurt, fruit, etc. I wanted the walker cleared and ready for some heavy duty walking. I wanted to do so much, but didn’t. Stupid! not being prepared for this undertaking has almost sabotaged me from the get-go. But, if I would have said –“Wait, I need to get this and do that” first, I never would have started. Still, I wish I was more prepared.

Wake up. water and walk – This is so hard to do and I so wanted to blow it off the walk. Again, having a buddy worked. I guess I am very susceptible to the guilt factor.

Work Day: So far, so good. But today, lunch wasn’t as satisfying. I don’t think I am getting enough cals at snack time and lunch. But I MUST not ‘make them up’ at night. I don’t feel as draggy as I usual do at this time of day, still doesn’t mean I would turn down a rest cot and a blankie.

My knees aren’t so bad half way through the day, but my hip is another story. But no matter what, I will continue to walk twice a day. It may hurt like hell, but the rest of my body must appreciate it! I’m hoping it will pass. I can’t let it stop me from getting healthy, that is for sure and positive.

And I can’t emphasize the importance of being prepared. I am so hungry now, but all I have to eat is a tomato, a cucumber and some cream cheese. YUMMY – not. They ran out of cottage cheese. AND – my favorite cookies are out today, calling my name. Keep repeating ‘What would I tell Dena?”

It’s 5:30 and I am hungry. I really need to eat more satisfying snacks and lunches. Dena suggested I add a soup to lunch. We’ll try that tomorrow. Or, maybe have it as the afternoon snack. I so want to go and munch on the cookies and wafers they have available here, but no.

Big revelation – Not only is my buddy helping, writing about it reinforces compliance. I guess that’s my personality though, and it’s better to work with it than against it.

Tomorrow – better planning, better food.

Note to self: I just realized something. I am going on a mini-vacation Wednesday and Thursday. I don’t want to lose momentum, but I don’t want to restrict myself too much either. Nothing like getting some alone time with the old man only to have it spoiled by salad and celery sticks. I’ll have to think on this one.

Evening Walk – I just couldn’t do it. All my determination. All my commitment. I physically couldn’t. My knees were ok, I could deal. But my right hip was Agony or some close relative. Thank goodness my husband was able to pick me up tonight. I don’t want to walk anymore. But that’s the problem, isn’t it? It’s a viscous cycle and I must break out.

Dinner – Shwarma in a pita, not a healthy choice day. But we were running late, and dinner wasn’t started, and we needed to do shopping so I could have food tomorrow, and, and, and… I think you know the story. I thought I blew it completely, but to my pleasant surprise, the calorie count on a Shwarma is between 400 – 500 calories without hummus or techina. Since I didn’t either, I was probably OK. But the white flour – not good.

Snack – ¼ cup of trail mix – nuts, raisins, dried apple and banana. Wow. That was way too much. I hope my low count for the day compensates. But I didn’t feel hungry, which would be a deal breaker for me. Also must give myself a pat. I didn’t go back for another ¼ cup.

Bedtime – Blew it again. I watched Olympic Pairs Figure Skating. I don’t live in the same time zone and we taped it for the evening. I hope I wake up on time.

All in all, today was harder than yesterday. Hungrier more often and my physical shape slowed me down. On the up side, I have the food I need to snack properly (no vitamins yet – bad girl) so tomorrow already promises to be better.

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Hi I am Dena’s friend who has gone along  with her perfect madness and will be posting for the next week. As some of the material is sensitive, I would prefer to just be named as shadow woman

I’m what you might call obese. And not overly energetic. I used to be skinny – Maybe not the twig of today’s standards, but I was comfortable in my body and I liked how I looked. Over the last 15 years, I‘ve become twice the woman I used to be. It needs to change. I want to see my kid grow up. I want to hold my grandkids. I don’t want to be housebound because my bones no longer support me and my heart barely stands the strain of going to the bathroom. And you know what – my husband may think I’m sexy and desirable – but I just don’t. I want to feel beautiful again. I have to do something. NOW.

And that’s where energetic, excitable friends come in (ie. Dena). I have one who’s got me hyped to do this ‘perfect eating week’. She found this article in Prevention’s online mag and – I think I can do it. I know me, I need scheduling, but not too much. I have to feel satisfied and see results right away or I won’t stick. That’s what this is. An hour-by-hour eating regimen designed to help the pounds come off and the energy stay up. So, we’re trying it together. And this is my story.

Day 1:

I was supposed to go to bed by 10:30 so I could be out by 11. Blew that. I got up only 15 minutes late. I will say even though I’m tired, but I don’t have that dragging, burning behind the eyes feeling. I forced myself outside for a walk. We have a walker, but it’s more of a clothes rack now. Changing that tonight, because I have to exercise again.

6:15-6:30 – Wake up time – ok. So I don’t jump out of bed. It took all my willpower and the knowledge I was doing this with a friend to get my tired bones out of bed. Yep, the buddy system works – if only for the guilt.

6:35 – Water and Lemon – this is supposed to rehydrate and the lemon helps rebalance your digestive tract. Since this is about eating right – rebalancing the digestive tract sounds like a good thing –even if I don’t understand it so much.

6:45 – Walk – Ugh. I want to use the walker – but it was folded up and being used as a coat rack. So instead, It’s get dressed and outside for a twenty minute walk. Honestly – I felt good when I finished, but the whole 20 minutes I had a list running in my head of things I wasn’t taking care of at home. Maybe that list is just another way of self-sabotage? Too early in the morning to think about it. Just walk.

7:30 – oatmeal and milk – I don’t eat breakfast. But for this to work, I must. My son was kind of shocked when I sat down with him. My goodness, what was I teaching him? Certainly not the importance of a healthy breakfast for everyone!

9:15 – water – Drink a glass of water and walk a bit to stretch the muscles. And yes – it’s keeping the mind focused.

10:00 – take a walk – had to stop my work – but the walk around the office helped stretch muscles and focus the mind

10:45 – cottage cheese and tomato. I’m usually on my 5th cookie by now – but this snack was more filling and tastier. Also too light on the calories. I can bump it up a bit tomorrow.

11:45 – more water and a multivitamin – Oops – forgot the vitamin. Drank the water anyways.

12:45 – tired but not dragging

1:15: lunch – a salad with olive oil dressing and an egg, plus a sour dough bun. OK, OK , tomorrow , no bun.

2:10 – A glass of water and a walk around the building. Felt good to get outside. But I feel like I am wasting time at work with all this walking.

3:45 – afternoon snack – I am so unprepared for this. Must go shopping. Off to the kitchen for some more cottage cheese, this time with cucumber – I like it, but a yogurt and nuts does sound more satisfying. Feel like I’m eating all the time.

4:15 – nodding off. I guess I really need to go to sleep on time.

6-7 – my next landmark calls for exercising at this hour – but this is my commute home. I walked for 20 minutes before taking a bus the rest of the way home. My knees and hips are on fire. It’s the weight I know- so I either work through it and get better or stop and get worse. If the pain continues and is more than aspirin can handle, I will go see my doctor.-

Dinner – I had a good dinner, steak, rice, big salad and 2 slices of home-made whole-wheat bread. But this time, I drank water until I was full and didn’t go back for seconds, thirds, fourths…I was satisfied. I know it was a high on the cal count, but I want to make a living diet – the next day should be smaller as my husband – the cook – gets more into it. he wants me healthy too.

Dessert/Snack – I have sweet tooth, and there was one slice of cake left. Not a big slice, but not a sliver. I ate it. This time, I didn’t look for something else to go with it. My cal count was low in the day and high at night. But I don’t think I overdid it too much.

Bedtime – Went to bed at 10:45.

On another note, because of my excessive weight and inactivity, my knees and right hip have introduced me to the meaning of ‘dull ache’. I hope a good night’s sleep helps.

So, until tomorrow…

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I don’t know if I even need to say this but I know I do. It is not really possible to lose any significant amount of weight without engaging in some form of exercise. Sounds easier than it is, most people at some point in their lives have started an exercise program. But for the most part they it never  becomes part of their lives hence only 1/3 or Americans actually exercise on a regular basis. In order to insert exercise into your, you must make it part of your life. So here are some basic tips to starting an exercise program that you can stick to.

1. Find and ideal time: when starting a new program pick a time, a specific time that you can stick to and that you are willing to forgo other activities in order to always do it. For example, I cannot exercise at night because I cant sleep. So I picked Monday, Wednesday and Friday mornings to exercise between the hours of 7-8. Nothing gets in the way of my three hours of exercise. My Husband does not have time in the morning so he dedicates Monday Tuesday and Wednesday from 10-11. When you make a specific and consistent time span you are more likely to prioritize it over other things.

2. Make it Fun: nobody is ever going to do an exercise program that they don’t like. Find something you like to do and make it into a program. I love Yoga and kickboxing, other people like biking,  walking on the beach, or Dancing. By doing what you love is going to give you that fulfillment and also adds more to your life

3. Make friends: People like to do things with other people. when your doing things with a group its automatically more fun and since others are relying on you, it is more likely to actually happen. So meet up with a friend to walk in a near by park. Or get together with other to do a exercise video.

4. Do-able yet Scalable: It is important that you can actually do the activity and that it has the ability to  grow with you. There is no way that I could row 20 miles in a canoe, but I can walk for 1/2 hour. And when 1/2 hours gets to be too easy I can extend the time or run for 15 minutes and walk the rest. If you pick an activity far out of your comfort range it is unlikely you will continue doing it

5. Set Goals: setting specific goals helps you focus on what important and even start a little competition with your self. Whether increasing the exercise time by five minutes or using 1 more pound of weight or doing 2 more sets. Making you reach for something just beyond what you are doing and accomplishing it makes you feel good and more likely to repeat the action in the future.

I hope these tips will help complete a overall wieghtloss program. Just always keep in mind. You can Do this. No matter who you are or where you are. Being healthy is always within your reach.

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