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Shabbos, it happens every week. When dieting, most people I know chose to ignore the day. I have been one of those people most of my life. Shabbos was always, a free for all, eat drink as much as you want. Limiting would detract from the Shabbos experience. I agreed with that for many years. But when I began to be more serious about weight loss, I knew I had to start adjusting my behaviors.

However, I didn’t want to DIET on Shabbos. Shabbos in its most basic sense is a day of rest. But its more than that it is a day we elevate beyond the physical realm and attain a surreal sense of peace, contentment and joy. And I don’t know of any more meaningful medium for experiencing that except food.

There has to be more, because if over eating makes me unhealthy than it cant make me truly happy, peaceful or content. So I started thinking to myself how can I limit out limiting.

I went back to my primary principles of dieting which are positive. If I eat all the food I need to eat I won’t have room for bad things.

Here are the strategies I starting employing that really helped:

  1. Add more veggies as a fillers to meals: Unlike week day meals Shabbos meals are different in that they have choices. I often have two or more choices or proteins, and carbs. By adding more veggie options I have more of an opportunity to fill up on vegges.
  2. Start with a clear broth soup: fills you up and just plain delicious.
  3. Eat whole grains:  As much as this hurts sometimes I have cut back on my potato intake and looks toward, buckwheat, brown rice and other options that are simply healthier.
  4. Take a walk: I have tried to get out more on Shabbos, sitting around is not healthy for me or my kids
  5. Make only one dessert: if I only have one I am more conscience of how far it goes over the weekend
  6. Cut the excess: Most meals start with what my husband and I call the never ending salad course. We get straight to the point and eat the food we want (usually the chicken), instead of sitting around eating mindlessly.
  7. Watch how many portions: I don’t pull out a measuring cup like the rest of the week, but I watch how many times I fill my plate.

I don’t think people should get obsessed with dieting to never have a day off. But I think more people are not having that problem, rather they like myself take too many days off. I have been trying to refocus my Shabbos, and remember that it is a spiritual event and maybe edge away from all of the physical manifestations. So that I may enjoy 120 years of Shabbosim.

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First things first, thank you. Because you’re there, reading my posts – I’m even more encouraged to follow through. You really make a difference.

Today I’m going to focus a bit different. We all know the deal now – water, exercise, water, eat, stretch, water, snack, stretch, water, eat, water…So today – let’s talk about feelings, breakthroughs and realizations.

Waking Up – I went to bed later than I wanted. And when the alarm rang, I hit the snooze again and again and – NO. If I didn’t get up now, I wouldn’t have time to walk – and I had to walk. So grumpy, tired mommy yells at the boy to get out of bed and get dressed. “I’m leaving and I want you dressed and ready for breakfast when I get home.” This sweet little voice called,”Why can’t I walk with you?” Indeed, why not? So, I calmed down and waited for him to get dressed. He ran the first ten minutes, we walked and talked the final ten, and then we enjoyed breakfast together. He said he was going to go to bed really early so we could walk longer tomorrow and suggested that I should do the same.

And what a wake-up call for me. First breakfast, now exercise. I was really sending the wrong message. I hope it’s not too late to change that – for both of us.

Forgiveness – Mistakes happen – don’t let them bring you down.
I didn’t walk last night. I failed. Normally, that would have been enough to stop me. But this morning, I did it anyways. I decided early on, if I made a mistake, to forgive myself and keep on keepin’ on. The results? Haven’t gorged on chocolate and haven’t given up on my walks. Good enough for me.

PAIN – If I hurt, don’t hurt myself even more. I was so into working through the pain – (I blame the Olympics and their no pain, no gain attitude). Reality check, I am extremely out of shape and overweight. My poor bones and joints can’t take the strain. So, last night, no walk. And this morning? My hip feels fine. My knees are a bit sore – but no biggy. At this place, at this time, the evening walk is too much for me. I’ll try again in a week.

Satisfaction – Face it – we all want instant satisfaction and gratification. That’s part of my weight problem. So I have to find the right foods to fill the hollow pit. I’ll have to play a bit to find the perfect combo of healthy, filling food that works for my, Until then – just deal. I’m hungry, not starving. After all, I’m going to eat something in less than 3 hours. I can wait that long. Then, when I make this work – I’ll experience satisfaction on a whole new level.

Willpower – I don’t think I have a lot of this, but I think we all have enough to get us through the little battles. Like this one. Day 2 commute home – and I am HUNGRY. It wasn’t a very satisfying day. And what’s that in my pocket, forgotten and forlorn? Half a bag of chocolate. Creamy, melt in your mouth chocolate. I didn’t eat it!!! (and the crowd goes wild!) Yes, I had enough willpower, but not enough. My willpower needs friends. Like Dena, like you.

Note:Vacation for the next 2 days. And I’ve decided. Don’t restrict too much – but don’t go overboard. Let’s see if I can find the middle.

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taken by Rich Moffitt

by shadow woman

I was up a couple times during the night. All that water has to go somewhere.  And, I don’t know If you can relate, but even if he’s a good boy during the day, I HATE going to the bathroom after my husband in the middle of the night.

I wanted to go shopping and get the things I needed – vitamins, yogurt, fruit, etc. I wanted the walker cleared and ready for some heavy duty walking. I wanted to do so much, but didn’t. Stupid! not being prepared for this undertaking has almost sabotaged me from the get-go. But, if I would have said –“Wait, I need to get this and do that” first, I never would have started. Still, I wish I was more prepared.

Wake up. water and walk – This is so hard to do and I so wanted to blow it off the walk. Again, having a buddy worked. I guess I am very susceptible to the guilt factor.

Work Day: So far, so good. But today, lunch wasn’t as satisfying. I don’t think I am getting enough cals at snack time and lunch. But I MUST not ‘make them up’ at night. I don’t feel as draggy as I usual do at this time of day, still doesn’t mean I would turn down a rest cot and a blankie.

My knees aren’t so bad half way through the day, but my hip is another story. But no matter what, I will continue to walk twice a day. It may hurt like hell, but the rest of my body must appreciate it! I’m hoping it will pass. I can’t let it stop me from getting healthy, that is for sure and positive.

And I can’t emphasize the importance of being prepared. I am so hungry now, but all I have to eat is a tomato, a cucumber and some cream cheese. YUMMY – not. They ran out of cottage cheese. AND – my favorite cookies are out today, calling my name. Keep repeating ‘What would I tell Dena?”

It’s 5:30 and I am hungry. I really need to eat more satisfying snacks and lunches. Dena suggested I add a soup to lunch. We’ll try that tomorrow. Or, maybe have it as the afternoon snack. I so want to go and munch on the cookies and wafers they have available here, but no.

Big revelation – Not only is my buddy helping, writing about it reinforces compliance. I guess that’s my personality though, and it’s better to work with it than against it.

Tomorrow – better planning, better food.

Note to self: I just realized something. I am going on a mini-vacation Wednesday and Thursday. I don’t want to lose momentum, but I don’t want to restrict myself too much either. Nothing like getting some alone time with the old man only to have it spoiled by salad and celery sticks. I’ll have to think on this one.

Evening Walk – I just couldn’t do it. All my determination. All my commitment. I physically couldn’t. My knees were ok, I could deal. But my right hip was Agony or some close relative. Thank goodness my husband was able to pick me up tonight. I don’t want to walk anymore. But that’s the problem, isn’t it? It’s a viscous cycle and I must break out.

Dinner – Shwarma in a pita, not a healthy choice day. But we were running late, and dinner wasn’t started, and we needed to do shopping so I could have food tomorrow, and, and, and… I think you know the story. I thought I blew it completely, but to my pleasant surprise, the calorie count on a Shwarma is between 400 – 500 calories without hummus or techina. Since I didn’t either, I was probably OK. But the white flour – not good.

Snack – ¼ cup of trail mix – nuts, raisins, dried apple and banana. Wow. That was way too much. I hope my low count for the day compensates. But I didn’t feel hungry, which would be a deal breaker for me. Also must give myself a pat. I didn’t go back for another ¼ cup.

Bedtime – Blew it again. I watched Olympic Pairs Figure Skating. I don’t live in the same time zone and we taped it for the evening. I hope I wake up on time.

All in all, today was harder than yesterday. Hungrier more often and my physical shape slowed me down. On the up side, I have the food I need to snack properly (no vitamins yet – bad girl) so tomorrow already promises to be better.

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big and small woman

Came across a great quote

I have missed more than 9000 shots in my career. Ive lost almost 300 games.  26 times Ive been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I have failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.” –Michael Jordan

Arthur Pledger writes a great blog on motivation and it got me thinking how important motivation is to loosing wieght.

Motivation really works, our minds are the strongest when we bolster them up with examples and reasons to continue at something that we want to enjoy and live with for the rest of our lives.

So here are the blogs I follows to get info motivation and all around good advice:

http://diabeticmediterraneandiet.com/

http://www.sparkpeople.com/

http://www.dailyspark.com

http://www.nutritiondata.com/

http://www.you-on-a-diet.net

http://www.burnthefatblog.com/

http://www.dietgirl.org

http://www.stumptuous.com/

http://live-for-life.info/

thanks to all of these bloggers out ther who help me work on my goals and i hope that working all to gether we can help you too achiev your goals.


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Sometimes wight loss has back tracks, this week has been one for me. My work schedule has come before exercising and I feel that I havent been eating as strict as I was two weeks ago. Eventhough I hear the voices in the back of my head telling me just eat your way to happiness, at this point i would love to eat a tube of ice cream. I am just going to accept the failure of the last fews weeks  and just keep going, hoping for the best.

Starting is always easier than contiuing becuase you have that new feeling, the empowerment of newness. How to keep going thats the real trial. So what will I do to keep ont he straight and narrow, because with me its all about what is going in my head.

1. I revisited why I am losing weight : ex.I want to fit into designer clothes

2. I created an challenge: 2 pounds for the next two weeks

3. created a reward: buying new cloths that will hopefully fit into better if I stick with my exercise program

(i dont like tying reward to weightloss because if you dont succeed than i feel like f ailure and have no reward, so i always keep the reward based on specific action tha represent purposfull action)

4. Read inspirational stories: If a woman can loose 150 pounds I can loose 4

5. keep going no matter what

One of the most interesting person in my life has showed me the principle of “Failing to succeed”. What ever you do it doesnt matter as long as at the end you just keep going. So I am just going keep my head over water because if  I do that sooner or later I will succeed if not just by luck.

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